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Real Stories : Stop being a runner

Real Stories are from the lives of actual people. Social media sometimes make people seem like a fairy tale. Real stories have been approved to republish on our site.

“Today is our anniversary! Some of you know the difficult year Michael & I faced; and others only see social media and think how wonderful our life looks (let’s be honest not many people post all the bad stuff.

COMMUNICATION IS KEY

A series of bad choices & decisions, poor communication, competitiveness & big egos attacked our marriage this past year. Many would’ve walked away. In fact, we are both “runners”, in our past when things got hard, we’ve never “stayed” to fix anything. It’s easier to run than to stay and do the work to fix it.

But this time was different. We stayed. Through the toughest of times. We fought, together, to get our marriage back to where it was supposed to be. And we used our competitiveness (as a team instead of against each other) to far exceed where we were supposed to be in our marriage and gained a higher level of where we wanted it to be.

 

WE MAKE MISTAKES

We aren’t perfect, we are human and will continue to make mistakes. But we value ourselves, each other, our marriage and our family in a deeper way than a year ago; so those mistakes are dealt with together now, as a true team.

We have had the opportunity to model to our adult sons how to be accountable and fix what’s wrong in relationships, instead of walking away.

We’ve had our family & friends walk through this journey with us; offering love, support and advice.

STAY IN THE FIGHT 

We’ve also attended marriage seminars, counseling & workshops. We have a lot of people to thank for where we are at today.

STRENGTHENED

We are both better versions of ourselves. We learned not only to forgive but to give each other grace. I look forward to this next year of marriage being one of continued growth.  There is no shame in our journey; I’m thankful for what we’ve learned as a result of our struggles.

The past 9 months have been nothing short of hard work, on a daily basis; dedication & love. Looking back to where we were at then and seeing where we are at now, I am so proud of us!! There isn’t a single person I’d rather take this crazy yet wonderful journey with. For all that you are and all that you will be, I love you with every ounce of who I am. I’ve never been more proud to be the Mrs. as I am today.

 You are not perfect Michael, but you are perfect for me ❤️ “Love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. To love somebody isn’t just a strong feeling. It’s a decision, a judgement and a promise.”

 

2 thoughts on “Real Stories : Stop being a runner

  1. I love the realness of this. Marriage is hard work and fighting through things when you want to give up. Knowing it will only make your relationship stronger. Great post!

    1. Thank you for reading and commenting. Yes, this is the story of my ex sister-in-law. She had a post on facebook and it really touched me so I asked if I could post it. Marriage is a constant fight. I’ve been married for 20 years so I know its not a walk in the park. 💟

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